No. Diyas have been used across South Asia for thousands of years and hold significance in many faiths, cultures and family traditions. Whether you are religious or not, South Asian or not, a diya can offer a simple and meaningful way to honour, remember and reflect. 

Ghee, otherwise known as clarified butter, has been used in diyas for thousands of years and is valued for its purity, steady flame and clean burn. Many people also appreciate the symbolism of ghee, which is often associated with care, devotion and intention. 

Whilst ghee is made from butter, they are not the same. Butter contains water and milk solids which can cause sputtering, excess smoke and an unpleasant burnt smell when burned. Ghee has had the water and milk solids removed, allowing it to burn more cleanly and evenly. 

Place unsalted butter in a saucepan over a low heat and allow it to melt completely. Continue heating gently until the water evaporates and the milk solids separate from the butterfat. Once the liquid becomes clear and golden, strain it through a fine sieve or muslin cloth. The remaining liquid is ghee. 

During the process of making ghee, the water and milk solids are removed. This leaves pure butterfat, which is far less prone to spoilage than butter. As a result, ghee can usually be stored safely in a sealed container at room temperature. 

Yes. Many families use household oils such as olive oil, sunflower oil or vegetable oil. The choice is entirely personal. Ghee and oil will both provide a steady flame when used correctly. 

We recommend using ghee or household oils intended for burning. Some scented oils are designed for diffusers rather than flames and may affect the way the diya burns. 

Yes. If you prefer not to use a wick and ghee or oil, a tealight can be placed within the diya. This provides an alternative way to enjoy the symbolism and beauty of the flame. 

Yes. The remembrance diya includes a dedicated space for an incense stick, allowing it to be used in different ways. For safety reasons, we recommend using either the incense stick or the diya flame separately, rather than at the same time. 

There is no right or wrong time. Some families choose to light their diya on significant dates such as anniversaries, birthdays, Wave of Light, Baby Loss Awareness Week or Diwali. Others may light it whenever they wish to feel close to their baby. 

Yes. If the wick has not completely burned, allow it to cool fully before storing it in a clean, dry place. It can then be reused during your next remembrance moment. 

Once the diya has cooled, remove any remaining ghee or oil and store it separately for future use. Wipe the diya clean and store it in a dry place until your next remembrance moment. 

The diya can be gently washed by hand using warm water and a mild detergent. Ensure it is fully dry before storing

Yes. The Enduring Light diya has been created for families of all cultures, faiths and backgrounds, making it a meaningful gift regardless of whether someone has previously used a diya. 

Families will be invited to share a photograph of their lit diya on our online dedication page. If they wish, they may also include their baby's name, a photograph, a message or a few words of remembrance. Participation is entirely optional.