5 ways to help someone whose baby has died

Talk about their baby

When someone’s baby has died, it can be hard for others to find the words to say. This can add to feelings of isolation, so simply saying how sorry
you are can really help.

Let them know you are thinking about them 

A simple text, card or email goes a long way. If you know them well, you might want to call them and ask how they are. It’s okay to ask ‘How are you?’

Offer practical help 

When a baby dies it can be very hard for parents and families to do everyday tasks such as walking the dog, going shopping or cleaning the house.
Offer to help in a practical way.

Going back to work

If you know a colleague whose baby has died you may want to let them know how sorry you are. If you’re an employer find out how best to support your staff and volunteers.

Give them the Sands Freephone helpline: 0808 164 3332 

Our Helpline team offers a safe, confidential space for anyone affected by the death of a baby. We offer support by telephone or email and may be able to refer on to a local Sands Group.

Baby death is still a taboo subject, we want to change that. We support bereaved parents and families from across the UK and from many different walks of life. One thing many of them have in common is that they feel isolated from their close friends and family after their baby has died. If you know someone you think has been affected by the death of a baby, please let them know you are thinking about them and offer to help.